Grief

Honest grief, when met with acceptance, is organically connected with the deeper love.

Honest grief is the pang of sorrow before it has been interpreted.  It is pure suffering and by itself, can act as a purifying agent to the soul and body.  The only way to be truly free from suffering is to experience it fully without interpretation.  Therefore, it also requires a willingness to suffer at the hands of another without retaliation, resentment or explanation, - it is a willingness to leave aside blame altogether.  This pure grief is more piercing than misery but leaves the person feeling purified and cleansed.  The dull ache of misery, on the other hand  can last to all eternity and slowly erodes the soul and body.